A divorce can feel like it's coming out of left field. But chances are, the signs were there for you to see all along - you just didn't realize them. At least that's what experts say. "We might claim not to have seen the red flags when the truth is that we willingly ignored them," former therapist Crystal Jackson explains.
Divorce recovery coach Leah Marie Mazur has also seen this firsthand. She asked members of her support group if they could identify any concerning signs that happened in their relationship - ones they didn't notice until after their marriages came to an end. You may be surprised to hear that they were able to identify them, but only after the fact; they couldn't see it in the moment.
There are some common subtle red flags that people who end up divorcing often miss. Which ones are they? These are the seven that often seem harmless at first... but they really aren't.
- Manipulative crying and always playing the victim
- Having an unhealthy relationship with their immediate family
- Being inauthentic with friends and family
- Showing little compassion or care
- Misrepresenting who they are as people
- Having a misalignment of values
- Choosing defensiveness and denial to avoid blame
Source: Your Tango
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